“Oppressed majority”

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Must watch video

I think this short film definitely uses more extreme situations and is a little bit more provocative, but many women all across the world are forced to face these scenarios. Some aren’t even as lucky as the target in this short film… For me this video is not about feminism but about bringing more awareness to sexual assault. However I am very well aware sexual assault can happen to both genders. It’s just good to see different countries embracing the power of film and Internet to bring more attention to the issues in society.

The short film “Oppressed Majority” was directed by Eléonore Pourriat.

6 steps to resilience

Once in a while you’ll find yourself stuck in a rut. Whether it’s the result of a breakup, a dispute or some stress at work there are always pick me ups available. Sometimes we have a habit of gravitating towards quick fixes such as: sweets, binge eating, alcohol or sometimes even doing things that are a bit risqué. But today I’m going to share with you a list I have comprised of pick me ups that I’ve adopted!

1) Eat healthy despite the strong urge for junk food. Undeniably, the pull for junk food will be by far more tempting. Actually, it’s a fact! These junk food brands have actually gone above and beyond to ensure their products are addictive. Not only that, we produce feel-good chemicals such as serotonin and dopamine when we consume carbohydrates, sugar and salty goods. I know I’ve succumbed to these temptations (many times). Cramped up in bed or on the couch bingeing on my favourite flavour of ice cream, following up with a salty bag of crisps and probably washing it all down with an alcoholic beverage (let’s be honest). Sounds great? Actually, according to studies, when we’re stressed or feeling down, our body actually requires a higher level of nutrition to fight back. So work on swapping the Choco bar for some fruit that contain natural sugars AND provide the same euphoria!

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2) Exercise! Often this can feel so wrong, yet so right. The wrong part is it’s very likely you’re feeling exhausted (mentally and physically) and going for a run or doing any form of exercise ranks last on your list of things you want to do. But I urge you try it! When we do exercise, we release a chemical called endorphins. Receptors in your brain that control your perceptions of ‘pain’ react to these chemicals and it becomes a natural pain killer! Endorphins also provides a sense of euphoria also known as a ‘runner’s high’. Great right? I know the struggle with getting up and going for a walk or a jog when you just want to snuggle in bed or watch a movie while pigging out but exercise is now what I crave when I’m feeling down on myself.

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3) Wear some colour! Something as simple as a little bit of brightness in your outfit can make you feel a little more cheerful. It’s called ‘Colour Therapy’. Yup, it’s a real thing! Wearing a bright statement colour can not only cheer yourself up but others may even hitch a ride on your happy wagon! It’s a win-win situation!

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4) Indulge in something you like doing. Whether it’s watching a movie, reading, cooking, drawing or some DI.Y. And if you’re thinking you have no time, I understand. But if there’s time to grub on a bag of crisps there’s time to do something you actually love!

5) Let yourself grieve. Depending on your scenario you may need to come to terms with what has happened. Don’t be afraid to cry and never feel guilty for feeling upset!

6) Lastly, speak to someone. I know sometimes it’s not so easy. Some of us open up a little easier and some of us struggle with letting other people know how we feel. But not only can we talk to close, trust worthy friends or family but we can also contact people such as a counsellor, a psychologist, a hotline or a therapist. There is an array of outlets and no one should ever feel alone. Loneliness isn’t just being with out people, it’s also not having a way or being able to express how you feel.

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Today I’m sporting a colourful knitted scarf and filled up my ‘celebrate every love’ Starbucks mug with delicious ginger and lemon tea!

Are a lot of us in danger of forgetting how to love?

“When you get use to being indifferent, you’ll forget how to love”
– Sweeney Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street (2007)

Through so many mishaps in life, there’s no doubt I’ve become indifferent especially towards the more negative things in life. But I can’t help but think that being indifferent is just another one of our defence mechanisms for all the things that we think will only hurt us in the end.

A few years ago I went through a phase in my life where I stopped caring. Now when I think back, it doesn’t even feel like that was me. It’s almost scary to me how detached I was. I really don’t think I was capable of loving anyone else at that time, let alone myself (even though I tried). And despite the fact I was trying to protect myself and think for myself only, I have to say it was probably the most self-loathing period of my life.

I don’t think it’s possible to love sincerely and passionately if you’re always trying to protect yourself or if you’ve chosen indifference as a lifestyle. But sometimes it’s not our choice. It’s just a hurdle life has thrown us. I don’t think we ever forget how to love, but sometimes we need to not be able to love to realise how much being able to means to us…!

All the things unspoken

“The key to communication is listening to what’s not being said”
– What Women Want (2000)

The deepest feelings and thoughts are the hardest ones to communicate. Sometimes for the fear of being misunderstood or ignored, and sometimes you just can’t find the right words to use. And maybe this is a reason to not dislike silence or fear it, because through the words unspoken you can hear things more clearly.